November 3rd, 2008
My boyfriend self-harms and it makes me really upset. I used to self-harm so I understand how it feels and I know that there really is no stopping him. Does anyone have any ideas on how I can stop him or at leats help him see there is more to life than it?
try not to get upset - just remember that it is his way of coping. just try to make sure he knows that you are there for him if he wants to talk.
i am a self harmer and i found it helpful to have a code with my best mate where i called her and asked something like "whats the weather like tomorrow" and that was her que to ask if everything was ok.
you cant stop him from doing it but maybe if you go to the doctors with him and see if he can be referred for councelling as i find it helps to talk to a stranger rather than someone i know.
just make sure the injuries are looked after as if they are not they may become infected.
good luck, and just remember to be there for him xxx
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